For several months now we have been having Project Gabriel peer support group meetings once a month. And for several months it has been such a sweet time of being together with other women who know loss like I do.
Because it’s hard to know what a meeting like this will be like and because the words “support group” and “meeting” sound stiff and intimidating, I want to share some more details about what a Project Gabriel peer support group meeting is and what it isn’t. Here we go!
What It Isn’t
- A big room of women
- Out in the open — we are behind closed doors.
- Judgmental — this space is so safe and the women are so kind; there is no judging! Your feelings, your decisions, your story will not be judged. Feel free to safely share.
- Forceful — you’re welcome to talk if you want, or just sit and listen if you want.
- For women with big losses — often women will tell me that they feel their loss isn’t big enough to come to the meeting. I absolutely disagree with this! The loss of a baby, at ANY point — 4 weeks, 8 weeks, 12 weeks, 16 weeks, 32 weeks, or at months of age — is hard. There’s loss of a life, a child, dreams, and plans. Grieving takes place with all losses. Your loss is big and worth grieving and celebrating the life that was, no matter how big or little your baby was.
- A lecture — I don’t lecture. No one does. It’s just a safe place to share.
- A counseling session — I don’t have a background in counseling. I am just one mom who has lost a baby, wanting to connect with other moms who have lost a baby.
- Shared with other people — This group stays private. You are welcome to share with others that you are coming, but I never will without your permission.
What It Is
- For women who have lost a baby — through miscarriage or infant loss [including miscarriage at ANY point!]
- A small group of women
- A sweet time together
- A chance to share your story
- A place to listen to others’ stories
- Somewhere to nod your head in agreement because you have had the same thought that someone else just shared
- A space where it’s ok to say “if I see one more baby announcement, I just may cry.”
- Somewhere where you can just be quiet
- Somewhere where you can talk the entire time if you want
A private room with closed doors
- Drinks and cookies for all :)
Do you have more questions about what it might be like? Contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org I would love to talk with you!