Five years ago we were married. It was a beautiful day in East Tennessee and we had such a sweet wedding day. I know that neither of us imagined what our future would hold just 5 years down the road. As we stood up together in front of our family and friends we made promises and committed to each other forever. In sickness and health, in good and bad, in rich and poor, for better or worse. Those words were dear to my heart, but I had no clue how deep they would become and run in our marriage. We were happy and started our life of bliss together.
A mere 2 weeks after we got married we moved to Maryland. It was when we finally got there after a 12 hour drive that should have taken only 9 hours and pulled off into our new apartment, that I first realized life wasn’t always going to be what I had imagined. The very nice apartment I thought we were moving into, wasn’t so very nice. I had never lived outside of Tennessee before. I had never seen so many of the things we saw in DC. I had never been so far away from my family. I had never lived in 600 square feet with anyone before. I had never taken the Metro to get around. Never ridden buses to get places. We had never bought a house before or worked with a crooked realtor in the past. These were all things that Tommy and I had to adjust to and work through together. These were all things that helped to form the foundation for our marriage. These were all really, really good things. Some moments were tough, some were scary, some were fun, and some were just down right hilarious. Most of these things are things we look back on so fondly of our first year of marriage. Most of them are things we look back on and laugh about and appreciate so much.
I think being able to handle the little twists and turns that happened in the first year or two we were married, really helped pave the way for how we would handle the real stuff next. While we wouldn’t have imagined having Jack the day after our 2nd anniversary, having him in our lives is far better than any plan we had. We didn’t think we would end up back in Tennessee for a long time, if ever, but we got to come back home when Jack was just over 5 months old. Just when we felt like we were back on the track of planning our life out again, we decided to have kids 2 years apart. And as you all know, we learned how to let go of planning and control. We certainly never would have imagined having a baby with a fatal chromosomal syndrome. We never would have thought we would lose a child. While being a parent is hard in general, losing a child is the worst thing parents could go through. But the amazing thing is that I didn’t have to go through it alone. I have always had my husband by my side. The man God chose for me — knowing he would be my best match to go through all of these things in life.
When I reflect on our marriage and our 5 years married, I am blown away by how loving and wonderful Tommy is. He has always stood by me, supported me, loved me well, and the same for our boys, too. He is one of the kindest, most loving people I’ve ever known, and I’m so thankful I get him.
Now when I think about our future, I don’t plan or really imagine what things will be like. I’ve learned in these 5 years that I just can’t even imagine. And while we’ve been through some really, really bad, worse, sickness, and death stuff, we’ve also been through some really precious, sweet, lovely, hopeful, joyful, and life stuff too. Five years feels big and while I’m celebrating that time together, I also look at it and just celebrate that we’ve survived all of this stuff that we have.
I am so very thankful for this man, my husband. I love you, Tommy! Happy anniversary!