October 15th is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. I seriously cannot believe it has been a year since we marked this day in 2013. It’s crazy how a day I didn’t even know existed, is now marked pretty big on my calendar. I’m a big supporter of this day. I think it’s really important to take the opportunity to remember women and families who have lost a baby. It’s easy to feel forgotten and alone when you’ve lost so big. Especially when we are surrounded by people who have what we so desperately longed for. Our family has been so incredibly blessed by so many people as we walked through losing our son in 2014. The love and support we’ve been shown has blown us away. I know many women who don’t have any support. Not from a husband, family, or anyone. Today is a day to share hope with all the women who have lost, and especially these women who really need to see some love. It’s all around us. One in four women will have a miscarriage. That number doesn’t even include stillbirths or neonatal loss. It’s all too prevalent. Let’s spend today taking time to remember the babies who are no longer here with us.
So today, just like last year, I am asking you to light a candle. At 7 pm tonight [or another time if that doesn’t work for you!] light a candle wherever you are in remembrance of a baby who is no longer here and to give hope to their parents. Then send a picture of that candle — text, email, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or anything else you want to us to help spread awareness of infant loss and most importantly share hope. Help mamas know they aren’t alone. I cannot wait to put all of the pictures together to see the beauty that is people coming together, encouraging, and sharing the burden of loss. Thank you for loving us, thank you for loving others, and thank you for remembering our sweet Gabriel. We can’t wait to see your candles!!
And in case I haven’t adequately expressed how much last year’s candle lighting meant to me, here is something I wrote on October 16th last year ::
I want to thank you all so so very much for remembering Gabriel last night. I was BLOWN AWAY by the love. That is what hope is. I wish I could have bottled last night up so I could take a big whiff of it whenever I needed encouragement. We feel so loved and so blessed to have people who not only haven’t forgotten our baby but also took the time out of their lives to do a kind act for him and us. So touched.
Tonight I will be lighting a candle at 7:00 and remembering many babies. I will remember a sweet little baby who just passed away a few days ago. I will remember twin boys who passed away a handful of years ago. I will remember a baby girl who passed away just over a year ago. I will remember a baby girl who’s parents fought so hard to keep her here. I will remember a sweet baby who passed away in the womb. I will remember my friend who had an ectopic pregnancy almost a year ago. I will remember the women who are pregnant with a baby who they know won’t live. I will remember the women who have had a miscarriage. Many friends of mine who have known that pain. There are a lot of little and significant lives to remember today especially.